why i can't get excited about how video games are ruining boys

We look for reasons that boys aren't manly. We look at their pleasures and if their pleasures are things we are unfamiliar with, we blame them. That's why video games are the centerpiece of the "worried about boys" movement. Do I disagree that boys are "less manly" than they used to be? Yes. Ah, but even saying "manly" is controversial. People want to know, "Do you mean the bad, old-style WWII manliness that we cured in the 60's through sensitivity?" Because if you do, then they are happy that kind of crude manliness is gone. What they mean is the largely imaginary sensitive (non-racist, non-homophobic, title9 supportive, anti-competitive, vegan-friendly) New Man. The problem is this New Man never took root in the culture. We pretend he has, but he hasn't. Instead we have Sports Man, "Seth Rogan" ironic pot-friendly crude man, Gang Boy/Men, and one hell of a lot of confused boys hunkering in basements playing video games. Do I think they could do better things with their time than play video games? Of course. But aside from sports (which have taken on a manic quality for boys and girls, to the point where it's just another school-related stressor) when these basement dwellers poke their heads up they find a male-unfriendly world. Military is not cool, even Boy Scouts are paramilitary homophobic organizations. Manly combat (boxing, wrestling) has become a multimillion dollar farce of steriodism, and the "new manly extreme sports" are one step above dog fights. Their dads (if they're lucky enough to have them) are overworked beat-up Homer Simpsons, or fiercely angry blue collar or underclass drinkers whose healthy outlets for male comraderie (poker games, bowling leages, smoking and/or drinking clubs, Freemasons) have been cast in a negative light by enlightened feminists who distrust any male-only society.
So men are largely alone, largely denigrated (when was the last time a decent dad was freatured in a cartoon show or sitcom? Hel-lo?), crabby and hostile without knowing exactly why. So the sons play video games and dad looks at online porn, while the women organize Get Out The Vote movements where they can get together and say how awful men are.

So why are video games so bad again?